Sensitivity & Misunderstood
Sumtimes, apa yg kita ckp/buat, eventhough kita x maksudkan pd seseorang tertentu, org akan tetap kecik hati/terasa. Naper? Ker sbb mulut kita yg jahat sgt or slalu ker percakapan kita salah pd pandangan diorg? Atau sesetengah org terlalu sensitif, ckp ape saje w’pun kita x maksudkan dia tp dia yg cepat terasa. Sorry, I juz help my hubby 2 voice this out. Actually apa yg dia ckp dlm chit chat hari tu sesuatu yg umum & itu pd pandangan dia. Oh, dah bape lama berkawan now only I know lar yg my hubby tu slalu ckp salah, kata²nya sume agak selfish, ckp besar & mcm bagus pd pandangan member tu. Hmmm… OK lar, bukan nk kata sape salah or betul kat sini. N not bcoz he’s my hubby I would say he is rite 101%. If he was wrong n menyinggung hati seseorang yg begitu sensitif, well.. we will not gonna 2 talk bout dat issue. I’ll remind him 2 stay away frm dat topic & not 2 giv his opinion anymore about everything - juz 2 be safe! Frens, kitorg slalu mendoakan our single frens berjumpa dgn Mr. Right memasing. V all nk all of our frens 2 be happy. x kisah lar ur future hubby nnt x terima our frenship, asalkan korang bahagia hendaknya. Tak pernah plak kitorg sindir/perli u alls yg still single, still mencari tu. Ini yg korang nmpak. Maybe kata² tu x kena sbb kat situ cuma ade 2 member yg single. Itu je lar yg bole aku kata. But how bout our feeling? Yg korang kata, we all je yg lelebih terasa ngan somebody tu? Korang kata, ala ‘dat guy’ bergurau jer. Dah mmg dia mcm tu. Excuse me? Korang kenal aku & my hubby lebih lama dr ‘dat guy’. Korang sendiri tau mcm mana caranya kami bergurau. Bole bezakan tak ngan cara org lain bergurau? Maner lebih teruk?
Other case - happened 2 us:
Kitorg begitu beria², bersemangat utk pegi ke umah sorg member nih. Ye lar, dulu korang kata, kitorg ni kecik ati sgt ngan member tu nape? Psl dia x penah jemput dtg umah pun nk kecik ati? So biler dia jemput, korang pegi je lar. Itu pun nk kecik ati ker? Itu kata korang, ok lar aku trime seadanya. Aku pun pegi lar sefamily. Dgn hati yg ikhlas ok… xde sbb lain. Dgn kepayahan Farest nk berjln (dia kuatkan semangat, nk praktis jln supaya cepat baik kaki tu). Farest bertongkat, I’m carriying our lil princess. Dgn brg lg nk bwk. Singgah kedai carik prezen. Aku x berkira psl prezen tu. Sbb kwn ngan dia pun dah lama, kawin pun date yg sama, aku cuba wat yg terbaik (including where we bought her prezen earlier be4 d wedding day, concerning dat 4 sure we all hv no time 2 meet during d wedding). Kami x kisah panjat umah member tu yg tinggi nun kat level bape tu. W’pun pakai lift, x pakai tangga u cant imagine how 2 walk wif the tongkat. Smpai umah dia, x sangka hubby dia begitu cepular berlawak jenaka dgn keadaan Farest. He says "tepi tepi…! org cacat nk lalu!!" Tah bape kali dia ulang² ckp mcm tu, aku x sure. Aku stay calm, wat x dgr. Hello, pd aku tu bukan lg bergurau and it is 2 much! Bayangkn dlm umah tu, ade ramai lg org lain yg aku x kenal. And sume mata tertumpu pada kami. Terasa hina sungguh! Dia panggil hubby aku mcm tu, dia x pikir ke ape yg aku rasa? Perlu ke aku explain & citer pd org, betapa susahnye aku nk handle mcm² without my hubby being ‘normal’ mcm ‘dat guy’??? Tiring u know? Kadang rasa sedih biler stgh perkara yg sblm ni hubby kita tolong buat, but now kita yg buat sensorg. Yeah, maybe it’s not as tough as ’somebody’ yg demam smpai husband & wife kene warded. So, ‘gurauan’ ‘dat guy’ kali ni bole dikira gurauan lg ker? Yg bole diterima oleh org lain, tp kami jer yg terover terasa? Then u tell me guys… Better aku stop smpai sini jer coz lg byk tgn aku menaip kat sini, makin ramai plak yg kecik hati, sensitif, terasa etc…
All I can say is d 1st paragraph is juz misunderstood I guess. SMS dah pun dihantar pd org yg berkenaan, mcm biasa say sorry (previously pun penah jadi, so oredy ask 4 appologies). Buat kwn yg sorg lg tu, I wud like 2 say sorry too - if feeling uncomfortable wif my writing **Sigh**.
June 28th, 2006 at 6:42 am
ehem….ape dah jadik nih??????
den baru je balik dari bersuka ria di s’wak…(and psst….net, diorang tak kasik aku amik sekor la… kalau bleh dah lame aku bawak balik….i mean org utan yg dijanjikan tuh….hehe)
well, surprise surprise… reading someone’s frustration in one blog and reading another’s dissapointment in another blog….what happened?? i tot we’ve known each other for quite awhile to be in this kinda situation… erm, maybe i should just shut my mouth and be a bystander as i’m in NO position to say anything…rite?
June 28th, 2006 at 7:15 am
not rite….
i’m not trying to be nosy as i dont need to try-i was born nosy..hehe..
so…what i wanna say is clear ur mind…take a deep breath…and listen to this story…
” this story tells abt 2 friends tht were walking through the desert.
at 1 point during the trip, they started arguing and one of the friends hits the other in the face.
the one that had been hit was hurt and without further words, he wrote in the sand :
“TODAY,MY BEST FRIEND HIT ME IN THE FACE”
they carried on walking until they came across an oasis, where they decided to freshen up. but suddenly, the one that had been hit got caught in the mud and was about to drown. his friend jumped into the mud and saved him.
after he had recovered, he wrote down on a stone:
“TODAY, MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE”
the friend that had hit his best friend and later on saved him asked:
“after i hit u, u wrote in the sand and now u’re writing it on a stone, why?”
the other friend answered:
“when someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand so that we can forgive and forget when the wind blow it away….but when someone does something nice for us, we should engrave it in a stone, where NO wind can ever blow it away”
so, that’s the story… :):)
June 29th, 2006 at 4:12 am
Nice story net.. I take ur words.. I’ll find a stone to write them down..Hehehhe (”,)